Everyone is a product of their upbringing, living conditions, experiences, interpersonal relationships and culture. It is, until we decide to be a product of ourselves, freeing ourselves from all the beliefs, roles, and fears associated with our past.
Since childhood, everything we experience and everything people tell us enters our minds. But we can adjust it if we want, because we are in charge of our own lives. No one can expect more from us than ourselves. As adults, we decide how we want to live, which probably doesn’t go hand in hand with what other people expect of us.
From the moment we are born, we are infused with upbringing and culture, and we are exposed to various interpersonal relationships. This certainly leaves an impression on us. In a way, we are programmed by all the information we receive, which determines the roles we play during the different phases of our lives.
Mental programming is something we always undergo and it leaves a deep impression on us when it comes to how we should interact with others, what other people expect of us and how the world works. As a result, we also develop an idea of how we should be based on the information we get from others.
The influence of stereotypes and prejudices on our roles
Since childhood, we develop an image of ourselves and the world that we use as adults to interact with other people in a certain way. Stereotypes and prejudices are generalizations of people or groups and their characteristics, which we learn from the adults around us.
Roles are certain behavioral attitudes that depend on the situation we find ourselves in, which we also learned when we were young. Above all, we learn to develop a role that will most represent us and that will also be the role we most identify with.
The tendency to please others can lower self-confidence
In many cases we have been taught what other people expect of us. But we’re not quite sure who we are. This is because we have not yet discovered our most profound skills and weaknesses and for that reason you can say that we grow up with little self-confidence, because we know who we should be, but not who we are or who we want to be.
Because we don’t really know ourselves, we unconsciously choose the role that is expected of us and we make great efforts to please others, to fulfill the role we have learned to play to the best of our ability.
It is possible to let go of the role assigned to us and discover who we really want to be. We need to work on mental reprogramming or letting go of who we should be and turning this into who we want to be.
This is both a conscious and unconscious effort that requires us to look deep within ourselves until we discover the programming we were given when we were little, but that doesn’t make us happy anymore.
I have the right to be myself
Being aware, discovering and adapting the roles we have taken on as well as the beliefs about relationships and the world you have learned means allowing yourself to be yourself. Freedom is the ability to choose for yourself, without feeling obligated to do what you have been taught. In other words, undoing all those things you ‘should’, that you’ve learned, and replace them with ‘will’.
We all have the right to be ourselves and when we do that means we are happy because the only way to be happy is to get rid of what others want from you and build your life the way you want it .
No one can deny us the right to be ourselves but ourselves. No one can decide how we play our adult role. No one should tell us who we should be but ourselves. No one can force us to do anything, because we are free to choose how we want to live our lives.