Have you already turned 50? If so, congratulations! In most cases, this means that you have had many experiences, both good and bad, and matured. However, turning fifty can also bring problems, worries and reflections. We are talking about the classic ‘midlife crisis’. About 82% of males will experience andropause by age 50, while the female population will also experience significant changes in every area.
A midlife crisis isn’t just about men going out and buying a sports car or mountain bike. Most women also go through major hormonal changes. Also, when a midlife crisis and puberty happen at the same time in one house… watch out!
The midlife crisis in women
In her book titled “The Second Half of Your Life,” Jill Shaw Ruddock explains that the hormones that once controlled everything in the female body begin to decline after age 50. This causes various changes in the body. These then manifest themselves in symptoms such as anxiety, mood swings and insomnia. Palpitations, a feeling of disappointment and the urge to cry are other symptoms.
For women, turning 50 can feel like riding a roller coaster. During their “second half of life” they reach the end of their reproductive phase (menopause). The word menopause comes from the Greek “man” which refers to monthly, and “pausi” which means termination.
Coping with middle-age changes when there are still children in the house
Times have changed. In the past, it was normal for children to be independent by the time their mother turned 50. But the reality is very different for some families today. When children are still at home, a midlife crisis can be a more challenging process.
A good friend who is 52 years old told me that one day she got out of bed and looked at herself in the mirror. She didn’t recognize herself. Her skin had lost elasticity and firmness due to declining estrogen levels. Her hair had become thinner and more fragile.
But not all is lost. In fact, nothing or very little can be lost. Being 50 now isn’t like it used to be. For example, think of Monica Bellucci who is attracting attention around the world as ‘the new Bond girl’.
Another advantage is that when you reach the age of 50 (half a century!), the voices of doubt in your head are silenced. The image that women radiate and who they really are are starting to converge and women are becoming more creative and ambitious. After the difficulties of the midlife crisis, many look to the future with renewed hope.
The Midlife Crisis and Andropause
8 out of 10 men experience andropause, which is a kind of male version of menopause. Andropause also coincides with the age group of midlife crisis in men. Some of the symptoms of andropause are as follows:
- Decreased libido, with the subsequent increase in erectile dysfunction.
- Dry hair and dry skin.
- Increased body fat and sweating.
- Muscle weakness and insomnia.
- High degree of irritability or anxiety.
- Change in bone composition, loss of minerals that form strong bones.
When men reach age 50, they can lose interest in projects they were once excited about. In addition, they may feel unable to come up with new ideas and be less willing to compete with other men. In addition, an indirect decline in their level of self-confidence, persistence and energy is not uncommon. This can make men feel uncomfortable or irritated.
The risk of depression increases after 50 years. Men at this age are at greater risk of letting their sadness and apathy take over. But this is just one chance; we’re not saying this will happen to everyone.
Is Youth Gone Forever When You’re 50?
Losing your childhood increases your chances of having a midlife crisis. As a result, you are more likely to suffer from depression. People have trouble answering existential questions that they didn’t have to ask before (or that they didn’t care).
In addition, you begin to identify with your own parents. As parents get older, they become more dependent on their children (who are now 50 or older). It’s easy to imagine that what’s happening to your parents now will happen to you in the not-so-distant future. This idea of the future can make you sad, especially if degenerative or chronic diseases are involved.
The importance of your mentality
Once you get older, you may have recurring, useless thoughts. These thoughts could be something like, “I feel old…nobody listens to the music I like…young people treat me like an old man.”
These thoughts can become more frequent over time, triggering feelings of emptiness, sadness, and even fear. So it is important to exchange these thoughts for other thoughts that will be more useful in times like these with so many major changes.
Many people will think that 50 is a wonderful age. At this age you have maturity and young people still long for it. That said, it’s true; you can’t go back. There is no choice but to take care of your health and enjoy the possibilities and opportunities that you have in the best possible way.