Jealousy, fear, accusations, anger, complexes… How far can it go before love becomes contaminated? We wait for a certain kind of love, hoping to find a love that will give us what we need. But the truth is that this desire for a love that can save us is misleading.
And so arise the shadows, the seven plagues, thousands of evils, sorrow, weariness and disappointment. And then absolute devastation, which makes us stand still and lose ourselves.
We are not born captives, we hold ourselves captive
The sad reality is that we fertilize our emotional landscape to cultivate an unhealthy love, the kind that stunts and destroys. We don’t keep our paths clear of weeds and this has consequences.
We cannot get rid of the sadness and heartache if we don’t change our behavior. It is better not to close our eyes. If something isn’t right, you just know it. You can feel it.
Freedom is not a lack of love and attachment is not the same as love
We understand love and relationships in different ways. If you want to be free, it doesn’t mean you have to renounce love. Likewise, there are relationships that are toxic and painful, no matter how much we love this person.
There are many stories of love being lost to pride, forgetfulness, or neglect. But today we’re talking about the relationships poisoned by the black widow of love: emotional submission.
For this reason, if love turns into an “I can’t live without you, but I can’t live with you either” situation, it’s time to say goodbye or reconsider. In other words, in any relationship it is necessary to put your own emotional health before everything else.
You may think that you need that person or that he/she adds a lot to your life, but there are times when you need to take the blindfold off and understand that he/she is interfering with your emotions.
This is the truth. We can’t love ourselves until we stop needing that other person. It is necessary to love ourselves and understand ourselves when something or someone disappoints us, because only then do we see our shortcomings.
People always think that the most painful thing in the world is to lose a loved one. But the truth is, if we lose ourselves in loving someone too much, forgetting who we are, it’s much worse.
When we are proud and love ourselves, the sparks fly. That is, love for yourself takes place in the mind and not in the heart.
We only feel sad and empty when we eliminate harmful things from our lives, because we long for what could have been but what didn’t happen, what we want to be but couldn’t be.
If you allow that sadness without fear, it will eventually lead to liberation and independence – a life without resistance, jealousy, resentment or blame.
So when we board the ship of poisonous love, the best we can do is look for something inside to stay afloat, but we don’t have to live our lives with anyone but ourselves.