I’ve decided to forget you, because I love myself, because I’m tired of being a satellite orbiting you, lost and aimless. I’m tired of being a moon with no inner brilliance, one that has lost its magic and light.
Why do we sometimes go to extremes, losing our balance and dignity in front of other people? We don’t know how, but something pulls us until it tears us to pieces, until it leaves our souls defeated and hopeless.
It is important that you remember that any loving emotion is based on living your life next to that person. Never make the mistake of living your life for that person, leaving the keys to your happiness in their cases.
We know that forgetting is not easy. In fact, no one possesses that magic pill with which we can erase every moment of a bad relationship. In fact, forgetting is not the solution to all that heartache and broken heart.
It’s about turning down the volume of these memories, deactivating their importance, so that the noise doesn’t stop us from regaining our balance and dignity. For someone who makes us forget who we are has no right to remain in our memories for any considerable length of time.
When did I forget myself?
Forgetting involves taking a difficult first step. It takes quite a bit of courage and emotional maturity to understand that we have to leave something that hurts us.
No matter how many days pass or how many seasons you’ve seen pass your window, time will not make you forget. But it will help you to sort things out and above all, to grow up. Because what’s really hard is forgetting someone who made you forget everything.
If you have experienced such a relationship, where you realized that you left yourself behind, you will know that the road to recovery, inner healing and finding yourself is not an easy one. What is it that makes us go to these extremes? Why do we let ourselves be so blindly carried away by that other person?
What we do in these relationships is “thinning ourselves” with the person we love until we lose our individuality. The problem with this is that we often do this of our own free will, because we are completely in love.
Slowly but surely, we reach a point where we value the other person’s needs more than our own. You will be surprised to know that it happens without the other person having to force us to do so.
Within popular psychology, this is referred to as Wendy syndrome, referring to the character Wendy Darling from the Peter Pan novel. They are generally women who understand love as ‘offering yourself completely to that other person’, caring for and caring for their partner, while putting themselves in the background.
Relationships in which the ‘power’ lies with one person
If one of the people in the relationship makes all the decisions and puts their own priorities above the other person’s, then an imbalance is created within the relationship, from which it is doomed to suffer. The other person will feel as if their confidence and integrity are under threat and will orbit the other person like a satellite. Forgetting oneself is the next step and will be incurable.
Remembering is easy for the memory, forgetting hard for the heart
Forgetting is like lifting an anchor that won’t free us from yesterday’s memories. Sometimes we are not looking to forget the relationship itself, but to make the person we were before disappear, since this person carried so little of our essence.
Some relationships turn us into people we are not. They make us fragile, make our value vulnerable and play with our feelings. If you look in the mirror and don’t recognize yourself because of the sadness in your expression, take action.
If someone turns you into something you’re not, then they don’t love you for who you really are. He only likes the image he has created of you or the image he has of you in his head.
- Your partner should respect your essence, your light, who you are in all your nuances.
- The moment you wish to change any of these things and allow yourself to do so, because after all you are doing it for love, you will start heading for an abyss.
- There will always come a time when you will have to weigh what you feel and what you deserve. If there is more regret than happiness and if you are aware that you deserve balance and above all happiness, you will have to be brave enough to take the next step.
- Keep in mind that in reality, it’s not about forgetting every day you’ve been through in the relationship. It’s about remembering these days without causing you pain and that’s something that takes time.
It will always be harder to forget someone you have fond memories of. However, if the person only provided you with tears and disappointment, then banish him from your mind and from your heart. Like a splinter finally out, allowing you to breathe.