Life is all about making choices. From the moment we get out of bed in the morning, we face all kinds of different situations where we are forced to make choices. Sometimes it’s a simple choice: What will I wear today? What shall I take for breakfast? In some cases, however, the choice between one option and another involves very important life changes.
Our circumstances change based on the choices we make. We shape our lives and our way of being through the things we do. Our choice of study, the career we pursue, the place we want to live, and the person we want to be are all choices that have a huge impact on both our present and our future.
For example, would you have been the same person if you had chosen a different study instead of your current study? What would have happened if you had let that special someone go when you finally met him? What would your life be like now if you hadn’t ended that awkward situation?
I make choices about the things that affect me
Of course, we cannot fully control what is happening in the world. It must be clear whose choice it is and what his choice is. We can’t make choices about things that don’t really concern us at all. Others should respect our choices and so should we respect the choices of others.
However, some issues directly affect us. Choices that only we should make ourselves, because they only concern us. The person we want to be, or what we want to leave behind, what we want to do with our time and our bodies; these are issues that we can and should all decide for ourselves.
Even if we don’t want to make a choice, we make a choice. This is the paradox of man. We are constantly communicating our intentions, even when we don’t really want to. Not making a choice is in itself a choice, the choice to postpone or not to do something.
Only I know my own circumstances
You may sometimes feel that others are judging you when you do or say something. Maybe the people around you don’t agree with you, and this can lead to them expressing their own opinions about what you should or shouldn’t do.
However, despite their good intentions, it is important that you are the one who makes the choice. You can ask someone what they think and listen patiently to what they have to say, but when the time comes to make a choice, this responsibility should fall on you alone.
Only you know your own circumstances. You can lend your shoes to someone so that they can feel what you feel for a moment, but even if this person could actually experience your feelings, it will still only be for a moment. Only you know what it feels like to have to or be allowed to walk in your shoes day in and day out. Only you know the path you have traveled, where you are right now and where you want to go next.
Whether it’s the right choice or not, it’s still my choice
When we have to make important choices, it is not surprising to have a lot of doubts. Doubting when considering different options is almost inherent in being human. There is no absolute certainty, and no one can assure us that the choice we make will be right or wrong. However, it is impossible to find out whether a particular choice is the right one or not without making this choice first.
Once you choose, you may or may not be right, but you’ll never know what’s waiting for you on the other side if you don’t take that first step. There will always be doubts running through your mind, and there will always be a risk involved in making choices. The only way not to fail is to do nothing, not to decide, not to choose, not to move forward.
We have the right to make our own choices about things that directly concern us. Just as we should respect the choices of others, others should respect ours. Regardless of the choice we make, however, it is most important that we do what we really want to do.
I listen to everyone, but in the end I decide for myself