Highly Sensitive Children

Highly sensitive children

Much has been written about high sensitivity since Elaine N. Aron started digging deeper into this personality trait in the 1990s. High sensitivity is when someone sees the world in a more intimate, sensitive and personal way : from the heart. From the deepest inside of a person.

Since then, many conferences have been organized. Books, articles and magazines have been published, social media groups have sprung up and a film has even been made about it called  Sensitive . It is said that twenty percent of the population lives, feels and reacts this way and there is  ongoing research on the best way to educate highly sensitive children.

A large number of these people reach adulthood while feeling different. It is as if the daily whispers form another melody for them. A sweeter, more beautiful melody, but also a sadder one, one that only they can hear, that only they can interpret.

If it wasn’t until the 1990’s that the world began to understand so-called “high sensitivity”, then it is clear that  there are millions of people who have gone through childhood, puberty and part of their adult life without knowing why they were different. were than others.

Today, and given the wealth of information and influence that the subject of high sensitivity has brought about, it is important that we are able to identify the children who have this type of personality. Parenting is not an easy task, but it is even more difficult to do with  a child who feels different from an early age. We want to give you a few simple strategies for doing this.

Identifying Highly Sensitive Children

For some people it can be difficult, they complain a lot and ask a lot of questions.  But  in a classroom, a highly sensitive child won’t attract attention,  cause no problems, and won’t have a chance to be tested to discover his or her talents, intuition, or sensitivity.

Those who are highly sensitive don’t fit very well in modern society. They don’t like to compete, they don’t like the hustle and bustle of the crowd. Highly sensitive children prefer to play with the stars, meditate while listening to music or be alone…

It is the task of mothers and fathers to recognize the traits of high sensitivity in their children. We do not intend to correct or normalize their behavior. Certainly not. But we want to identify it so we can help and understand them.

It is necessary to recognize highly sensitive children so that we can provide guidelines so that they know the reasons behind these inconsistencies  that they may be feeling in their daily lives. For example, they will see that they are much more mature than their friends and that the world is sometimes a bit out of place and guided by selfishness.

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We must lead, care for, communicate with, listen to and let them feel our warmth and support. But before we can do that, it’s important that we know how to recognize highly sensitive children and the traits that best define them. Below we explain how you can do this.

  • High sensitivity also means physical sensitivity. They have a lower tolerance for pain: even chafing their clothes can be painful. As babies, they often begin to cry upon hearing loud noises.
  • They are grown children and this is evident from the depth of their questions.
  • They instinctively know how the adults around them feel. They pay attention to their facial expressions and their gestures.
  • This personal maturity makes them feel different from their classmates.
  • They pay a lot of attention to the details in everyday life.
  • While being highly sensitive doesn’t necessarily mean you’re an introvert,  they love being alone.
  • They love music, art and nature.
  • They are interested in social problems.
  • They are easily hurt ; every negative word or gesture can touch them deeply.

Three educational pillars for highly sensitive children

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Being different is a powerful weapon

We should not turn the child into something it is not, nor try to make it “normal”. We have to accept their traits and make them realize that feeling life with that intensity is not bad luck, but a gift. The world has unique nuances that only they can see. Show them that the world is a safe place. If they feel good with themselves, life will shine  because they have the light in them, because they are special and strong enough to withstand adversity.

Boost their confidence

Trust them, give them autonomy through positive affirmation and validation. Show them that their abilities allow them to do anything, that they have many qualities and potential. Develop their sense of self-awareness.

Prepare them for adversity

We know they’re just kids, but we also know they notice a lot of things that others don’t. They feel contempt, selfishness, silence and rude behavior even more intensely. This is something that we will have to work on every day and we can do this through emotional intelligence.

If others don’t act like me, it doesn’t mean they don’t like or accept me. They feel things differently, but that’s not better or worse. Just different. It is important that they learn to manage their frustration, sadness and disappointment.  In life they will feel more than one disappointment, they will suffer and all those emotions will overwhelm them. It is important that they learn to manage these dimensions as soon as possible.

When highly sensitive children have discovered who they really are, there will be balance in their daily lives. Then they will become authentic, mature and happy people because they have lived life from the heart. Because they have brought their own light.

–Images courtesy of Mercer Mayer, Ida Rentoul, Melanie Delon–

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