The world is full of challenges. Being mentally strong is therefore of fundamental importance to be able to meet all these challenges. It is important to raise our children as mentally strong as possible so that they feel as if they are capable of truly overcoming these challenges.
Mentally strong children are able to approach problems productively, deal with failure efficiently, and face difficulties competently. If you want your child to be able to face challenges in a good way, you should help him develop this mental strength yourself.
What is mental strength?
Mental strength depends on resilience, self-confidence, self-assurance and self-efficacy. Helping children develop their mental strength requires an approach that includes the following aspects:
- Replacing negative thoughts with more realistic thoughts.
- Emotional Control
- Productive behavior even in less favorable circumstances.
Strategies to develop children’s mental strength
There are several strategies and tools that can help children develop their mental strength.
Teach them special skills to correct bad behavior
When a child misbehaves, he gives us an excellent opportunity to teach him some special skills, such as the ability to solve problems, control his impulses, and practice self-discipline. These skills will help children behave in a productive way, face difficult circumstances and setbacks, and solve their own problems.
Let children make their own mistakes
Your child will be able to learn very valuable life lessons if you give them the opportunity to make their own mistakes. A parent’s job is not to protect their children from everything, but rather to teach them that mistakes are part of the learning process and so you don’t have to feel ashamed or uncomfortable about them at all.
Parents and teachers should teach children to learn from their mistakes and urge them to try again, now that they know where they went wrong last time. In addition, it’s important to just let some things run their course as long as it’s not dangerous, and to talk to your kids about how to avoid making the same mistake in the future.
Keep children away from negativity
It is difficult for children to feel mentally strong when they are constantly humiliated or when they teach themselves to always expect the worst. Encourage your child to maintain a realistic and positive outlook. Realistic thoughts can help build optimism as it teaches a child to explore possibilities and rely on their own abilities.
Help children face their fear
If a child constantly avoids the things he fears, he will never have a chance to become more confident in his own ability to deal with the stress these situations cause. In addition, every child has their own fears. The solution is to guide your children and help them become confident enough to face their own fears.
When children successfully face their fears, they develop greater confidence, learn to step outside their comfort zone, and discover how satisfying it can be to have accomplished something on their own.
Give them a chance to feel uncomfortable
While it can be very tempting to jump right in to a child’s rescue when you notice he’s struggling with discomfort, he’ll only become dependent on you if you save him from every problem. If a child is feeling frustrated, bored or angry, you should give them the opportunity to solve the problem independently.
Children can develop mental strength when they successfully learn to manage their own emotions.
Confirm their responsibility
Developing mental strength means accepting your own personal responsibility. In order to do this, you must give children the opportunity to justify their own actions without making excuses or blaming others for the choices they have made.
Teach children to control their emotions
In order for your children to become mentally stronger, they need to be aware of their emotions. It is not the intention that they suppress their emotions, but that you teach them to deal with these emotions in a healthy way.
When children understand their feelings and know how to deal with them, they will be better prepared to face difficulties.
Be a role model of mental strength
There is no better way to convey something to someone else than by setting the right example yourself. It’s not enough to just tell your child what to do, you have to show it yourself. In this case, it can be helpful to talk about your own personal goals and explain what you’re doing to become a better person.
Showing mental strength in your own life is the best way to teach your children to be strong yourself.