Leaving things unfinished is more than just carelessness, something not to be taken lightly. Psychologically, it’s a symptom that shouldn’t be overlooked. This is especially true when it doesn’t happen just occasionally, but more often.
Leaving things unfinished creates anxiety. Any item on your to-do list that you only half do is an incomplete cycle. When a cycle is incomplete, it lingers over your head, even if you’re not aware of it.
You feel the emotional burden of the disorder, although you may not know exactly why you feel this way. You may also feel a kind of fear that pops up when you least expect it. In short, you don’t feel well.
There are many reasons why people don’t finish something. Sometimes it is due to external circumstances. Most of the time, though, it has something to do with you, and your grip on the situation. You don’t finish your task because something gets in the way. For some reason you try to avoid reality or a situation. Let’s take a closer look at this.
Reasons why you don’t finish it
In our life we have both big and small goals as well as big and small tasks. In people who don’t finish things, there is a kind of disconnection between goals and tasks. They have every intention of doing something, but that does not translate into concrete action to make it possible.
Many different causes are possible. However, there are a few in particular that are particularly relevant. Those are the following:
- Low Self-Esteem. If you don’t have enough self-love, you think the things you do have no value. You feel like it makes no difference whether you do it or not. You have the impression that it doesn’t matter if you stop halfway through something.
- Feeling of Failure. This is because you don’t really know what you’re doing it for. It’s like you’ve already lost, and no effort is worth it. It is actually a symptom of depression.
- Feeling of uselessness. Some people think it’s better not to finish things because it probably won’t work anyway. They are afraid of the results. In this way they avoid their own limitations, real or imaginary.
- distraction. This happens when there are things that completely absorb your attention, interest, or available mental energy. As a result, you have nothing left for other tasks. And if you’re doing something else, you’re only doing it halfway.
- Being overloaded. If you have more obligations than time to fulfill them, you usually only do half of everything.
What happens if you leave things unfinished?
As you can see, leaving things unfinished has a lot of negative consequences. Basically it causes a feeling of fear, which can grow and become very overpowering. And of course, it ultimately undermines your self-esteem as well.
The main consequences of leaving things unfinished are:
- Constant stress.
- Feeling of stagnation. It’s like you’re always in the same place and you can’t move forward. You can never control one of the things to move on to the next.
- It affects productivity. It would be very difficult to achieve important goals if you only do things half way. It makes you inefficient and you waste energy.
- Your attention becomes fragmented. If you don’t finish a task, your mind is busy with too many things at once. You think about the things you still have to do and the time you have left to do them.
- It prevents you from starting new projects. You know you’re not done with what you’ve already started, so you don’t feel free to start something new.
How can you solve this problem?
If you leave things unfinished, you have to tackle the problem on two different levels. The first has to do with breaking the habit. It starts as an unconscious action and ends as a habit.
What you need to do is perform three basic actions.
- Make realistic plans. Set goals that are actually achievable.
- Divide the tasks into steps and challenge yourself to complete them, one at a time.
- Learn how to take active breaks. These are short rests so you can regain your strength and keep moving forward.
You also have to solve the problem on another level. The second level is deeper. You may be doing something you hate and feel trapped. Perhaps you have been paralyzed by a sense of incompetence. It is also possible that it is an emerging depression. Whatever the cause, try to get to the bottom of it.