Disconnecting yourself from the world is one of the keys to happiness. Sometimes life asks way too much of us. Society doesn’t want us to be good at what we do, it wants us to be the best. What we have determines who we are.
If we have a lot of money, a big house, a nice car and a great body, we are worth a lot more. Society has very high expectations.
This is why we need to escape every now and then. Escape for a while every now and then allows us to take that weight off our shoulders and slow down our pace. The problem is that unfortunately it is not always easy to disconnect yourself from the world.
The expectations society has of us are unrealistic and disproportionate. They are the result of an increasingly selfish and consumer-oriented society, in which all that seems to really matter is our ability to produce.
If we produce more, we are worth more. However, if we produce less, we are, by definition, worth less. In fact, it really is that simple.
Give me a moment
How many times have we asked others to give us a moment? Dozens, maybe hundreds of times! So many demands are placed on us that sometimes we have to say ‘enough’ and take a moment to breathe.
You have to disconnect yourself from the world. However, this can be very difficult. Your father says something to you, then your mother, friends, colleagues, classmates and so on. The media is also constantly bombarding us with information.
Everything is information and almost all of this information requires our attention. Do this. Do that. Buy this mobile phone to be happy. Buy this perfume if you want to be attractive. Make sure you have this car to feel important. If you’re not number one, you’re nobody.
Television commercials are always full of nice houses. Also, the characters in TV shows usually have huge houses and are almost always very happy. Everything seems to go well with them. Little by little we start to believe that this is how it works.
Social media is also full of false information. People only upload what they want you to see, the images they want you to see. Those images are usually as perfect as possible. We ultimately believe that everyone lives a fairytale life except us.
Moreover, we compare ourselves to them, which only makes our self-image more negative. If you can’t use social media healthily, it might not be a bad idea to disconnect yourself from it for a while.
Disconnecting yourself from the world: something that is necessary
Disconnecting yourself from the world is very necessary. In addition, it is fundamental to have a healthy mind. We need at least an hour to ourselves every day.
During this time, we should completely disconnect ourselves and not worry about anything for a while. We can take this moment for ourselves when we come home from work in the evening or in the afternoon.
Sit on the couch or take a walk. Focus on the present moment t. Observe everything around you without judging it. For example, if you go out and see a car, try not to think straight in terms of beautiful or ugly. When you see people, don’t judge them by their outward beauty. Just observe.
Why is it important not to judge? Judging involves making positive or negative assessments. These assessments produce emotional states that can vary in intensity.
However, it is very important to maintain our emotional balance. And when we are constantly making judgments, it is very difficult to experience inner peace.
Our mind needs rest. At the moment we are like a raging ocean with towering waves. However, we must learn to be a calm sea. When we have peace of mind, we will be able to handle life differently. In addition, it will help us to realize that those external demands are artificial.
In each of us
Jon Kabat-Zinn tells us that we have negative thoughts that cause our own suffering. When we take the time to look within, we will realize that, as Dr. Kabat-Zinn says, we really do have very negative thoughts.
However, we will also eventually realize that most of these thoughts stem from social demands that actually have no meaning at all.
Detaching yourself from the world, if you try and start connecting with your inner self, you will become aware of the importance of self-knowledge. You will realize that happiness is not to be found in unrealistic goals, but instead it is present in each of us.