Brilliant Parents Get Their Kids Excited

You have good parents and you have brilliant parents. There are many different ways you can raise children and these ways are as varied and colored as the parents who use them. Of course, most parents want the best for their children, for their children to feel loved and happy. Therefore, parents set rules for their children and set boundaries that create a unique system for that particular home. The dynamics in each family are different and can be modified and revised as the parents see fit.

These rules and boundaries set by the parents should be clear, direct and firm. In addition, they should be reviewed and rewritten as often as necessary. That is the foundation of the dynamics in any family, something that varies and fluctuates according to the phase the family is in. These situations, seasoned with emotions and peppered with unforeseen events, will form the basis of the psycho-emotional development of every family member.

Good parents and brilliant parents

Augusto Cury, a  physician, psychiatrist, therapist, and author, wrote a book called  Brilliant Parents, Fascinating Teachers,  in which he describes tips on how to raise happy, proactive, confident, and intelligent children. He also analyzes the habits of good parents and those of brilliant parents.

Children Who Have Been Allowed To Catch Fireflies From Their Brilliant Parents

1. Good parents give presents, while brilliant parents give their whole selves

Good parents satisfy the needs of their children as far as the means allow. They buy them clothes and toys and games, throw them big birthday parties, take them on trips, etc.  Brilliant parents give them something much more valuable, something that money cannot buy. They give everything they have, their story, their experiences. They share their emotions and their time. This habit of brilliant parents helps develop their children’s self-confidence, emotional intelligence, ability to cope with loss and frustration, and the ability to speak and listen.

2. Good parents feed their kids’ bellies, while brilliant parents feed their personalities

Good parents nurture their children to make them healthy, while brilliant parents are also concerned with nurturing their intelligence and their emotions. Being educated, having a good economic position, having an excellent marriage and sending them to good schools is not enough for their psycho-emotional health. It is important to prepare children to ‘be’, not just to ‘have’. This habit of brilliant parents contributes to the development of their children’s sense of security and their leadership skills, reflection, courage, optimism, fear management and conflict prevention.

3. Good parents correct their children’s mistakes, while brilliant parents teach their children to think for themselves

When parents correct their children’s mistakes and tell them the same thing over and over, they are just repeating words and complaints, which has no positive effect on the children. It only leads to aggression, frustration and aloofness. We have to surprise our children. They enthuse. Make them reflect. This habit of brilliant parents contributes to the development of their children’s critical awareness, the ability to think before responding, to be faithful and honest, the ability to question, and to bear social responsibility.

Little Boy Sitting With His Arms Crossed

4. Good parents prepare their children for praise, while brilliant parents prepare them for failure

Good parents prepare their children for triumphs, good grades and success in school, work and in social relationships. Brilliant parents are aware that it is more difficult to deal with failure, so they help their children not to fear failure. This habit of brilliant parents contributes to the development of their children in their motivation, boldness, patience, determination, ability to pull themselves together, creativity and ability to take advantage of their potential.

5. Good parents talk to their children, while brilliant parents have a dialogue with them

Many parents are unable to have a dialogue with their children about their fears, losses and frustrations. Having a dialogue means expressing yourself, talking about experiences, sharing someone’s heart secrets and going deeper than behavior. By entering into a dialogue with their children, brilliant parents help them develop solidarity, camaraderie, zest for life, optimism and interpersonal intelligence.

6. Good parents give their children information, while brilliant parents tell them stories

Good parents inform their children, but do not tell them stories or dialogue with them. Children are not so much in need of authority, money, and power, but rather spend time with their parents and listen to their stories that are full of emotions and experiences. They need brilliant parents who help them develop creativity, ingenuity, dexterity, schematic reasoning and the ability to find solutions.

Mother Reading To Her Little Daughter As An Example Of Brilliant Parents

7. Good parents give their children chances, while brilliant parents never give up

Good parents oversee their children’s mistakes. Brilliant parents never give up, even when their children disappoint them, make mistakes, or suffer from emotional disturbances. Brilliant parents believe in their children, try to see what no one else sees in them, help them cultivate ideas and are not dominating towards them. They help their children develop respect for life, hope, motivation, determination and the ability to doubt themselves and overcome obstacles and failures.

Sometimes parents lose confidence. They think they have failed as parents. But it’s important to remember that while parenthood naturally comes with tremendous responsibility, it should always come from a place of affection and simplicity. We can teach strategies about how to raise children, we can read for years the theories of Piaget and Vigotski, the psychoanalysis of Freud, Gardner’s theory of multiple intelligences and the wisdom of Plato, but if we don’t love our children, enthuse  them, teach them how to think or plant things in their memory, no study or theory will be valid or applicable.

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